I’m a fan of Facebook (FB) connecting me with friends and family, past and present. It allows me to support “Friends” from afar for life’s victories and bumps and FB makes sure I don’t miss sending important Birthday, Anniversary, and Holiday wishes. It’s kind of cool to wish a High School buddy, who you haven’t seen in 50 years, Happy Birthday or adding your “Like” to 50 other well wishes. Tallying the number of greetings is like counting candy bars after a good Halloween. And then there are the shared posts of sad stories that rally hundreds or even millions of people to wish a total stranger well—that rocks!
In addition to the FB greetings I especially look forward to the posts on controversial issues which my amazingly diverse group of “Friends” seem to live for and passionately represent both pro and con.
- Guns< — >No guns
- Bomb the s_ _ _ out of them< — >hug them
- Drill< — >Solar
- Global warming< — >Denial
- Build the wall< — >Amnesty
- Embrace refugees< — >NIMBY
- Obama Care< — >Privatize
- Same sex marriage< — >Between man and woman
- More entitlements< — >Less
- Yankees< — >Mets
- And lots more
I really don’t care which side my Facebook buddies are pitching, but some get so fired up they go for the throat with personal attacks. They should know that the attacks aren’t going to sway me or any of my strong-willed “Friends” who have stayed true to their beliefs in spite of FB posts with opposing persuasive arguments from heavy hitters like Donald Trump and Winnie the Pooh. So you might want to rethink the name-calling, insulting strategy.
“Hey you’re an ugly, stupid, bottom-feeding, loser!!”
“Well thanks that changed my mind!!”
If you’re the target of the personal attack thing, it can be bothersome and equated to Cyber-Bullying. Sometimes I’m tempted to join the attack mode and give the moron label to some of the stupid things I read and I’m sure some of my posts are deserving of a personal attack but that kind of negates the whole philosophy of the “Friend” thing. These attacks just seem to take on a life of their own and everyone forgets about the issue that started all the “sticks and stones” comments. The battle usually escalates as Friends on both sides join the fight and it becomes a feeding frenzy of name-calling and un-friending—FUBAR!
I want my Friends to keep posting all the clever, attacking, emotional, ranting, brilliant, funny, or stupid posts but do not want to take sides in any personal battles. I’m not sure why anyone tolerates “Friends” “you’re stupid as dirt” insults when it’s pretty easy to keep the attacks and battles off your FB page with a few simple actions:
- Be selective in approving Friend requests. True “Friends” know if you’re a moron so they don’t have to publicly post that fact and will instead ridicule you with a direct message.
- You control the comments showing in your post so instead of letting yourself be a punching bag just “remove” any opposing comments by clicking on the x in the upper right hand corner of the poison comment.
Facebook is an amazing social network that I access many times a day. My Friends are some of the smartest and creative people, from tree-huggers to clear-cutters, brightening my days by updating life events, entertaining, and educating. I want to keep my FB page a place where we attack those who deserve it like politicians and bad dudes and give our “Friends” a bye. So if I don’t approve your “Friend” request or “Unfriend” you, don’t take it personally because I just may not know you that well or your posts are making me crazy and I don’t want to be that Cyber-bully guy.